Before we answer the above question, let’s first see what are the ways through which we can ensure that we fail with the Releasing Process:
1. Release only the thoughts in your head and not the limiting feelings that you experience.
2. Only release when an emergency occurs (when you are stressed out). Don’t make releasing part of your daily living.
3. Don’t set goals and don’t release on them.
4. Go looking for a new and better solution to your problems.
5. Release with an obsession to get your goal and hold that need in mind as you release.
6. Never review the Releasing Process material or keep in touch with your RP facilitator – assume you are using it correctly.
7. Neglect to pat yourself on the back for the little successes you achieve through the Releasing Process – instead focus on what is still wrong with your life.
8. Don’t spend time online or offline with like-minded people to share, grow and learn together.
9. Try releasing once on a huge goal and then give up when you don’t get instant results.
10. Expect to learn releasing without putting the theory into practice.
Here are some pointers on being successful with Releasing Process:
1. Your success with the Releasing Process depends on your correct application of the method.
Doing it the wrong way for a long time will not yield results.
Even if you think you have been releasing for two years – if you haven’t been actually releasing then you have no experience of releasing. You are still at day one.
When you are new to releasing it is highly recommended that you follow the instructions to the letter and only later on, after you have evidence it is working, you can maybe customize it to your own way of doing things.
If you are not following the correct method of releasing, then you may need a good enough reason to change what you are doing – if your life depended on it then you would definitely be releasing like a master before the day is out.
2. Vague notions about what success with the Releasing Process means will get you frustrated.
What do you regard as success? Total bliss, fantastic relationships and amazing health?
These are very vague and intangible ideals. You have to get highly specific about what you want. This is the only way to know if you are making progress or not.
Measure where you are today and keep track of your progress or the lack of it. If you are clearly making progress, then keep doing what is working.
If things are not getting better, stop doing what is not working and get assistance from your Releasing guide/facilitator.
3. Releasing with the Releasing Process is simple.
Does this mean that all you do is just keep asking the releasing questions?
It is not really about asking and answering questions – it is all about feelings, NOT thoughts. Focus on feelings.
There are several different ways to release, all of which are covered in the workshops.
If one approach does not work for you then use one of the other approaches.
Some practitioners find that just asking the basic releasing questions works the most for them.
A common mistake is the attempt to complicate the simplicity by adding steps or by leaving steps out. If you end up with your own variation of the Releasing method and it does not work, don’t blame anyone else for its ineffectiveness.
Releasing is a very different way of operating in the world – if it seems difficult to you right now, it’s because you are still learning how to do it. It really is simple once you get past the learner driver stage!
4. Big results happen with the Releasing Process when you let go of it all.
If you want a big demonstration of what releasing can do then you have to earn it by releasing to completion on your goal.
Pick a highly specific goal and release until you have no resistance, no fear and no attachments or aversions to the goal.
This is easy and quick for small goals that are within your sense of possibility.
If you feel that the goal is way outside your sense of what is possible for YOU now in this very moment, then you have a lot of releasing to do. And two hours releasing is highly unlikely to be enough.
For example, let’s say you have never sung in public in your life and you want to sing your No.1 hit song on national TV.
Is it possible? Yes!
Is it possible for you today? The answer to that needs to be a congruent “Yes” coming from your heart expressed from an emotionally free state. Only then have you let go.
5. Your starting point with the Releasing Process is a factor in your success.
Why doesn’t everyone get fast results? Well, maybe releasing isn’t for everyone. Give it 100% and decide for yourself.
At the end of the day, if you already had an ability to let go before you discovered releasing you will see results sooner rather than later.
For many practitioners it is a new experience feeling their feelings, since they had done a great job of suppressing them for years. Many have to learn to feel the emotions BEFORE they can let them go, so it could take longer for them to get it.
6. Miracles may take time.
When you come across of the testimonials of many RP practitioners about their successes and accomplishments, it is easy to feel like you are doing something wrong.
Why haven’t you won the lottery yet? Why hasn’t your perfect lover walked (literally) right up to your front door?
Why haven’t you cured that irritating illness that you haven’t been able to shake off for years?
Questions like these can keep nagging you and keep pulling you down from making any progress with releasing. After all, many practitioners report that they got everything they wanted just by releasing, and not taking a single action step! So, you wonder why you are not achieving anything just by releasing.
First of all, please note that it is okay to release and still take action on your goals.
There is a joke about the man who had been praying to God for years for a windfall of millions of dollars. God finally responded to his call for an explanation. When God spoke, this is what he said: “It would help if you bought a lottery ticket from time to time!”
The ultimate “Grand Master Releaser” may well be able to sit on his or her chair all day long and do nothing other than releasing… and be able to manifest whatever he or she desires without taking a single action step.
You are not there yet.
That ultimate releaser state might be a good long-term goal. How about taking the pressure off and getting started with small goals first?
If you were a learner driver would you apply to compete in a Formula One race? Of course not, you would learn how to drive first!
The first stage is to release, make it part of how you live, set goals and start releasing to completion. Keep releasing and start building your Releasing Momentum.
For now, pay attention to your intuition as it will guide you to do certain things, go to certain places and to talk to certain people. The more you release the more you will know the best course of action. Your assessment of situations will improve as you keep releasing because your thinking will not be clouded by emotion.