IMPORTANT NOTE: Most of the posts in this blog are intended for those who are already familiar with the Releasing Process, so it is assumed that since they know the basics, they will be able to easily grasp the content of the posts. Otherwise, it can be difficult or even confusing to read through the posts. If you are yet to learn the basics of the Releasing Process, and would want to commit yourself to learning the Process, then it is strongly recommended to attend at least one of the programs/seminars/retreats in which the Process is taught, such as Emotional Freedom workshops.

Just wanted to share a powerful way to release on the judgements we hold in our minds about many things, especially people. The process is called The Judgement Dissolver. Judgements, like beliefs and negative emotions are one type of limitations with which we are deeply attached to and we keep using them as filters through which we view the reality. Because of this habit, our view of reality is always distorted. Just like every other limitation, our judgements also prevent us from realizing the Peace and Freedom that we are.

Here are the questions as part of the process:

1. In this situation, time, and location, who angers, confuses, or disappoints you, and why?
Answer template: I am ……. with ……. because ……..
Example: I am angry with Vivek because he argues with everything I say.

Now, do the release:

Could you welcome whatever feelings, thoughts, emotions and sensations this brings up? What craving could be behind this? Is it craving approval/control/security/separation/oneness? Could you welcome the craving? And finally, could you, as best as you can, just let it go?

Repeat the above as needed.

2. In this situation, how do you want them to change? What do you want them to do?
Answer template: I want ……. to …….
Example: I want Vivek to see that he is wrong. I want him to apologize.

Now, do the release:

Could you welcome whatever feelings, thoughts, emotions and sensations this brings up? What craving could be behind this? Is it craving approval/control/security/separation/oneness? Could you welcome the craving? And finally, could you, as best as you can, just let it go?

Repeat the above as needed.
3. In this situation, what advice would you offer to them?
Answer template: ……. should/shouldn’t …….
Example: Vivek should take better care of himself. He shouldn’t argue with me. He should stop lying. He should see that I am only trying to help him.

Now, do the release:

Could you welcome whatever feelings, thoughts, emotions and sensations this brings up? What craving could be behind this? Is it craving approval/control/security/separation/oneness? Could you welcome the craving? And finally, could you, as best as you can, just let it go?

Repeat the above as needed.
4. In order for you to be happy in this situation, what do you need them to think, say, feel, or do?
Answer template: I need ……. to …….
Example: I need Vivek to hear me. I need Vivek to respect me.

Now, do the release:

Could you welcome whatever feelings, thoughts, emotions and sensations this brings up? What craving could be behind this? Is it craving approval/control/security/separation/oneness? Could you welcome the craving? And finally, could you, as best as you can, just let it go?

Repeat the above as needed.
5. What do you think of them in this situation? Make a list.
Answer template: …….. is ………
Example: Vivek is unfair, arrogant, loud, dishonest, way out of line, and unconscious.

Now, do the release:

Could you welcome whatever feelings, thoughts, emotions and sensations this brings up? What craving could be behind this? Is it craving approval/control/security/separation/oneness? Could you welcome the craving? And finally, could you, as best as you can, just let it go?

Repeat the above as needed.
6. What is it in or about this situation that you don’t ever want to experience again?
Answer template: I don’t ever want  ……..
Example: I don’t ever want to feel unappreciated by Vivek again. I don’t ever want to see him smoking and ruining his health again.

Now, do the release:

Could you welcome whatever feelings, thoughts, emotions and sensations this brings up? What craving could be behind this? Is it craving approval/control/security/separation/oneness? Could you welcome the craving? And finally, could you, as best as you can, just let it go?

Repeat the above as needed.

Answer the questions as honestly as possible. Focus on the heart (feelings) rather than the head, do not make this an analytic/intellectual exercise. Writing down the answers is recommended. Write down whatever answers keep coming up for each question. Do not stop until you are satisfied that all the questions have been considered thoroughly. After completing each of the questions, release on whatever reactions that your answers bring up in your mind.

One more thing, please note: the statements given in the examples above are not from my wife!! ;-) Those statements are mere examples.

Happy releasing!

 

Regards,

Vivek Venugopal.

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