IMPORTANT NOTE: Most of the posts in this blog are intended for those who are already familiar with the Releasing Process, so it is assumed that since they know the basics, they will be able to easily grasp the content of the posts. Otherwise, it can be difficult or even confusing to read through the posts. If you are yet to learn the basics of the Releasing Process, and would want to commit yourself to learning the Process, then it is strongly recommended to attend at least one of the programs/seminars/retreats in which the Process is taught, such as Emotional Freedom workshops.
We often don’t say what we mean or mean what we say. For example, when many of us
speak of abundance, we mean money. When we speak of health, we mean appearance. And when we speak of joy, we mean happiness. The difference between experiencing joy, abundance, and health – in contrast to acquiring money, a good appearance, and happiness – is vast. The former are inclusive, while the latter are exclusive.
Joy is the state that arises when we allow ourselves to experience everything as it’s unfolding, without judgment. It arises when we are being – without condition. Abundance is being grateful for all the physical, mental, and emotional experiences flowing toward and away from us. Abundance arises through the realization that we always receive exactly what we require for the integration and evolution of our experience. Health arises when we attend to each aspect of our physical, mental, and emotional experience by responding consciously to its cause. Health arises through responsibility. In contrast, happiness requires that “this or that happens, or doesn’t happen.” Money only represents one tiny aspect of our overall energy flow. Appearance, when it’s all that matters, is only skin deep. The Releasing Process isn’t concerned with our attaining of happiness, accumulation of money, or perfecting our appearance. It’s a means to prepare the garden of our experience to plant, nurture, and bear the fruits of present moment awareness – an awareness of what joy, abundance, and health actually are. Because of our ongoing desires, we likely enter this journey with specific and therefore exclusive intentions. This is natural. However, this Process isn’t about satisfying our specific desires, but about opening our awareness so we consciously receive what we require in order to initiate emotional integration. It’s about experientially accessing the realization that if something is happening to us, it is required. It’s about embracing the fact that our unfolding experience, exactly as it is, is always valid.
We may not appear to desire what’s currently unfolding within our experience, but the
fact that something is unfolding reveals that it is indeed a requirement. We identify requirements by the fact that they happen regardless of what we think we desire. Once we realize this, our choice is either to respond or to react.
As we move through The Releasing Process, it’s natural we would expect “results.” We
grow up in a world where each aspect of our experience is flaunted unashamedly as a means to
an end, and where the consequences of almost all of our activities are held up to some form of
measurement. It’s therefore unlikely we know how to behave unconditionally. Because of this,
we naturally monitor our progress and measure our success throughout this Process by
watching for the fulfillment of our desires in our circumstances, even though we are asked not to
do so. We are asked not to be preoccupied with results because initially we simply don’t know
where to look, or what to look at, to see the real consequences of entering The Releasing Process.
Because of this, we inevitably examine the wrong aspects of our experience for signs of
There is no standardized measurement in this Process by which to gauge success, other
than the unexpected and seemingly unintended shifts in our experience. What we require almost
always comes to us as something unexpected and unintended. False expectations about
satisfaction of our desires dampen our effort and instill doubt.
Looking for results – and the yardstick we use to determine our success – is motivated by
the niggling of our unintegrated emotional charge. No matter how much we may perceive
ourselves as different from others, as long as we suffer from unintegrated emotional discomfort,
we are all really seeking the same thing. We want to fill the big black hole within our heart. It’s
natural therefore that we initially gauge our progress by whether we feel better. But remember,
this heart work isn’t about feeling better. It’s about getting better at feeling, which entails feeling
emotions we have long suppressed.
The Releasing Process isn’t about satisfying desires that arise from within our unintegrated emotional charge or our cravings. These can never be satisfied. An unintegrated emotional charge
that we attempt to pacify is never resolved. We c an never fully satisfy our cravings. When fed, it lives on as long as the feeding continues.
The Releasing Process isn’t about satisfying desire by feeding it, but about instructing us
how to accomplish resolution of this seemingly unending inner hunger through integration of its
Having said this, an awareness that “something is happening” as a consequence of
entering this Process is essential. By following the instructions given during support calls, workshops, follow-up meetings etc, we receive ongoing experiential confirmation that something is indeed happening. This confirmation occurs because this Process is causal and therefore impacts our experience. However, the initial consequence of entering this journey isn’t that we feel better and have it easier. No matter how physically prepared we believe we are, no matter how mentally
agile we think we are, and no matter how emotionally mature and vibrationally aware we may
perceive ourselves to be, when an awareness of our emotional causality arises, we feel it, we welcome it and we let it go as best as we can.
This feeling is what we run from through all addictive, controlling, and sedating behavior.
There is seldom anything pleasing about facing what we have been running from. Feeling these
emotional states isn’t what we desire, though it is what we require. Only when we remain balanced to these emotional states, fully welcome them and let them go, do we move towards true freedom.
Whether we are aware of it or not, ever since we departed childhood, the extent to which
we have been able to subdue our emotionally generated yearnings has served as our barometer
for achievement. When we don’t subdue this restless inner hunger, we assume we aren’t
In the past, we may have attempted to quiet this inner hunger by adjusting our physical
circumstances through fasting and exercise routines, or with prescription medication or addictive
self-medication. We may have tried to quiet our longing through food, sex, work, and charitable
activity. We may have attempted to impact our confusing mental condition through mind-control
techniques, hypnosis, and positive thinking. We may have read numerous self-help books,
attended health retreats, gone to workshops, and participated in hours and even years of verbal or
other forms of therapy. However, none of the “results” brought about by these external
approaches are ever permanent. Their impact on our experience is akin to camouflage, in that
they appear to assist us by temporarily covering up our awareness of the cause. They are like
treading water: they tire us but take us nowhere. They don’t achieve anything lasting.
Through diligent effort, we may remain for long periods in states of recovery. However, when we falter, we realize the precariousness of this emotional status quo. A “recovering addict,” even after sixty years, is still at risk of betraying their sobriety. This is because the act of recovery is one of engaging in the artificial peace of quiet desperation. Recovery is not discovery, and without authentic discovery, there is no causal transformation. And without causal transformation, that is, change at the cause of suffering, there is no real freedom and abundance. Recovery places its attention on the effect, while discovery courts causality. We don’t impact causality by fiddling with effects. The prize for engaging in recovery is always and inevitably self-deceptive, quiet desperation. The Releasing Process seeks out causality, knowing that when causality is impacted, effect is automatic and transformation permanent. This is why The Releasing Process isn’t concerned with results, but with consequences. Results are concerned with a hoped-for outcome, not certainty, since results are something that can’t be guaranteed. Results are graded, and therefore attached to seeking acknowledgement and approval. They are measured by the temporary quieting of inner hunger, not its resolution. In contrast, a consequence is an effect, and therefore inevitable. Consequences unfold in direct response to the causal impact of The Releasing Process. Indeed, everything about this Process is causal. The Releasing Process therefore invites us to trade in our result-oriented mentality for a consequence-oriented mentality.
When we engage in Releasing, we consciously enter our emotional body. The consequences of entering our emotional body and integrating charged emotion through conscious breathing, initiating mental clarity, and awakening felt-perception aren’t initially what we may expect. On the contrary, they are unexpected! Actively becoming aware of charged emotion isn’t an experience we normally invite because at first it doesn’t feel easy and good. This is because it impacts our experience in a very real way. Just consider what the word “impact” feels like. The main reason we aren’t experiencing the vibrational qualities of effortless joy, abundance, and health right now is our unintegrated emotional charge. This is also the root of all our cravings. Charged emotion is blockage in the emotional body, causing resistance. Because we don’t know how to integrate this, we further resist by suppressing our awareness of it. This resistance upon resistance accumulates and manifests as heat, and this heat arises within the felt-aspect of our experience as physical, mental, and emotional discomfort. To compensate for this discomfort, we “try to be happy,” to appear to others as if “everything is fine,” and to make enough money to “feel good about ourselves” – that is, as good as possible given our predicament.
As long as charged emotion unconsciously dominates our capacity for feeling, thinking,
speaking, and doing, we experience life as a constant laboring to fulfill the seemingly insatiable
appetite of our inner hunger. Under such circumstance, authentic joy, abundance, and health
remain unrealized. Unlike the endless quest for happiness, money, and a perfect appearance, authentic joy, abundance, and health aren’t a means to an end. They are only experienced when we are at peace with this moment – when we perceive this moment as valid. Joy, abundance, and health are automatic byproducts of present moment awareness. They are already within us. When we are unaware of them, it’s because our attention is anchored elsewhere. One reason we might enter an experience such as The Releasing Process is that we secretly hope for a magical quick fix that makes everything “alright” by dissolving our current difficulties. This is expected because we live in a society that demands instant gratification. We have also been suffering with emotional discomfort for a long time and are on some level living in quiet desperation. Desperation seeds destination consciousness. Fortunately, as our past reveals, there is no quick and easy way around our present circumstances that has any authentic and therefore lasting impact on the quality of our experience. There are plenty of escape routes, but there is no realizing peace through any of them. They are all cul-de-sacs.
This is the challenging truth about our unintegrated emotional body: There is no way
around it. The way out is through, and the way through is in.
Grasping the authentic nature of this quest saves us from unnecessary drama, false
expectations, and bowing out because of unexpected physical, mental, and emotional discomfort.
Growing up and becoming “normal” citizens of our communities results in a storm raging
within us. This is because what’s accepted as normality is a state of quiet desperation in which
we exist as a consequence of the denial of our authentic being. As much as we might wish to
deny the existence of this controlled and sedated inner storm, it can’t be hidden. It’s the storm of
duality. It’s the war between authenticity and inauthenticity. It’s the vast canyon of fear, anger, and grief that lies between the adult and child self. By gazing across the planet, we perceive the casualties of this charged condition everywhere.
When we seek to realize authentic peace, we are asked to enter this storm consciously.
For this, we require inward momentum. We don’t need to take up the issues of the world because
the way to have an impact on the cause of all our perceived chaos lies within us.
The Releasing Process invites us to willingly plunge into our inner storm like a bungee
jumper leaping off a bridge. Pure awareness is the harness that guides our bravery and foolishness. It steers us into the eye of this inner storm and facilitates its integration. Entering this storm consciously enables us to grow in ways we have never imagined. Its winds blast the fog of
“living in time” from our experience, while its torrential downpour washes us clean of illusion.
This inner emotional storm isn’t accidental, but is both an invitation and a deterrent. It
functions like a doorway, restricting those not yet ready from entering, convincing those who still
require rest to remain in the sleepy dream of time. Entering our inner emotional storm
consciously is a rite of passage – the right passageway for impacting causality and, through this
impact, the journey towards true freedom and abundance.
The Releasing Process isn’t primarily an outer journey, but an inner exploration. We may
not yet fully comprehend what this means. But through experience, the full implication of what
we mean by an “inner journey” dawns. An inner journey implies nothing is going to be tampered
with out there in the world. We leave the world alone. We don’t clean the mirror to remove the
blemishes from the face reflected in it. We use the mirror – our experience within the world – as
a tool to perceive our blemishes. All adjustments are then initiated within, through being aware of all thoughts, feelings and body sensations within us.
By deliberately impacting the cause of charged emotion, we simultaneously manifest
physical, mental, and emotional experiences that mirror what we are focusing on internally. For
this reason, as we move through The Releasing Process, it’s beneficial to keep reminding
ourselves that our worldly experience is an effect – all of it. It’s important to remember this so
we don’t become sidetracked with mirror-cleaning drama..
For many of us, the effect of consciously impacting the cause of charged emotions is that
we start feeling uncomfortable. As we initially journey into The Releasing Process, it may appear
that our overall experience is worsening. It may appear our desires are not only being ignored,
but are also being exaggerated.
None of this is real, but it’s all valid. None of this apparent “worsening” is true, but it’s
all required. It’s a reflection of unintegrated childhood experience, which is now being projected
onto the screen of the world and perceived through our adult eyes. The reason it’s projected onto
the world is that we don’t yet have the capacity to perceive it inwardly. Because of our addiction to believing and behaving as if the effect is the cause – as if the world is the reason we don’t feel at peace within – we are prone to react to this shift in our circumstances. For this reason, when our experience appears to deteriorate and enter increasing discomfort and strangeness, we are to remind ourselves that this is occurring because, by entering The Releasing Process, we are deliberately placing attention on our emotional blockages. We are to remind ourselves that the turbulence we are experiencing is beneficial! In contrast to feeling good and having everything become easier, these unexpected shifts are authentic signs of initial progress. They aren’t the results we may want, but they are the consequences we require. We are also to keep in mind that there’s an unintegrated childlike aspect within us that desires happiness, seeks to appear good, and wants to make lots of money to buy stuff to feel better. To this childlike aspect, sudden unexpected shifts within our outer circumstance feel threatening. It feels like “the end of world.”
On one level, it is. It’s the end of a world of pretence. Pretence dissolves as Presence
reawakens. As we go through these shifts, we are therefore encouraged to be patient and
demonstrate compassion for ourselves. This is why we are invited to trust the Process. This is
why we are told, “The way out is through.” This is why it’s recommended we keep releasing no matter what. It’s better not to start this journey than to run away just as our focus begins zeroing in on our emotional blockage.
Know that the sudden outer shifts in our physical, mental, and emotional experience pass.
Remember that as we integrate causality, this becomes reflected as beneficial shifts in our
circumstances. Just because we are becoming increasingly uncomfortable doesn’t imply we are
doing the Process incorrectly. The opposite is true. When we are struggling physically,
mentally, and emotionally through this Process, it’s because we are being impacted by it in a
beneficial manner. This is the opposite of what the world teaches us to perceive as
accomplishment, the opposite of what it holds up for us as a barometer of success.
Only by witnessing firsthand how we move into, through, and out of these uncomfortable
experiences do we come to the place of knowing we are responsible for the quality of our
experience. By accomplishing this, we realize that taking care of our emotional development is
one of our fundamental responsibilities. Through this journey, we understand that when we
experience an emotional charge in our world, it’s a reflection of our inner condition. By moving
through this experience, we witness firsthand the capacity of Presence, the awareness or beingness that we are, to manifest exactly what we require to facilitate integration. In this manner, The Releasing Process uses our personal experience as a means of validation. Our experience becomes our teacher. The invitation placed before us by The Releasing Process is to learn through firsthand experience not to fear and resist the inevitable discomfort that arises from continuous and deep releasing, and not to react to the consequent emotional processing by dramatically behaving like “the world is ending.” Instead, we are invited to embrace the discomfort of emotional processing as a sign that we are having an authentic impact on the cause of our discomfort. The invitation is to willingly ride our inner dragon, and to discover from personal experience that our inner dragon is only tamed when we choose to ride it.
Anyone who attempts to convince us that we can accomplish authentic, lasting adjustment to the quality of our experience without encountering what the mental body perceives as discomfort is to be viewed dubiously. Our willingness to consciously engage our imprinted discomfort is the alchemy that fuels transformation. This doesn’t mean we need to suffer unnecessarily. It means that when we seek to activate authentic movement in the quality of our experience, we are required to face whatever is unfolding within us. When our inner condition is uncomfortable, facing the discomfort is what authenticity is, not pretending it away. The Releasing Process is the battleground of emotional warriors. It’s an opportunity to willingly step forward and unsheathe the sword that cuts us free from our emotionally programmed, time-based mentality. It quickly separates wheat from chaff. This work isn’t about “easy” and “good.” It isn’t about happiness, appearances, and money. It’s about becoming authentic. It’s about growing up emotionally. It’s about reclaiming integrity. It’s about grasping life intimately, with both hands, and raising ourselves up from being “the emotionally dead.” The mental body finds a million excuses to quit this Process– especially during the advanced workshops wherein the Process is taught to serious practitioners.
Remember also that there’s an aspect of our experience that doesn’t intend to be changed
– the mental body, especially when it believes itself to be in control. The mental body is the
voice that whispers “better the devil you know,” ushering us away from authentic change.
Though it initially encourages us when we ask for change, it’s bluffing. It pretends to be on our
side so we don’t perceive its ploy. It pretends because the mental body not only prefers
familiarity but is addicted to familiarity. This is why habits are so challenging to defuse.
The mental body doesn’t approve of change in any form, even though it appears to
encourage it and comes to our aid by suggesting approaches we can take to change the quality of
our present circumstances. But the moment we attempt to apply any of these suggestions
consistently, the mental body changes its tune. The moment our experience becomes unfamiliar,
the mental body tells stories, using words like “bad,” “wrong,” “dangerous,” “harmful,” “evil,”
and “uncomfortable.” These words persuade us to feel afraid, and the fear then incites us to
doubt and question the new direction in which we are moving. The mental body then encourages
us to scramble back to the familiar, thereby restoring our sense of comfort even when this means
reinstating a habit that’s killing us. “Better the devil we know,” it claims. Whenever the mental
body is in control of our experience, it is devilish. When we use the mental body as a means of gauging the consequences of our attempts to make an authentic change in the quality of our experience, we enter another Catch 22. We ask for change, are given the opportunity to change, embrace the opportunity, start feeling different, and then the mental body tells us that this strange feeling is “wrong.” We become afraid, turn against that which is changing our experience, and return to what’s familiar and safe. Nothing is accomplished. In fact, we feel more frustrated and disillusioned than before. The mental body grows stronger, and we become disheartened.
This is why it’s recommended we commit to keep doing the techniques in The Releasing Process no matter what. Take stock only upon completion of your journey through the Process, not in the midst of it. Keep releasing no matter what experience arises.
NOTE: Every experience that arises as we move through The Releasing Process, whether
it’s understood by the mental body or not, is valid. We complete the journey no matter what
the mental body tells us because we realize this aspect of mind is the last to embrace the changes
required as we face up to our emotional discomfort. Discontinuing the releasing work gives the
mental body added strength and dominance. It isn’t called the “mental” body without just cause.
As we move through this experience, we intend to listen to the heart, not to the thinking aspect of