Common obstacles with the Releasing Process
IMPORTANT NOTE: Most of the posts in this blog are intended for those who are already familiar with the Releasing Process, so it is assumed that since they know the basics, they will be able to easily grasp the content of the posts. Otherwise, it can be difficult or even confusing to read through the posts. If you are yet to learn the basics of the Releasing Process, and would want to commit yourself to learning the Process, then it is strongly recommended to attend at least one of the programs/seminars/retreats in which the Process is taught, such as Emotional Freedom workshops.
Releasing is so simple that it becomes easy to create problems. The more you use the heart instead of your mind in the process, the better results you will get. Let’s discuss some of the common obstacles along the way to using the Process effectively.
I can’t feel anything!
As you keep releasing you will naturally get in touch with your feelings, don’t beat yourself up because of it.
That’s a problem some people face. Something very common is releasing from the head instead of “from the neck down”. Trying to make Releasing an intellectual process instead of actually releasing from your gut, can be a very strong obstacle. Despite the fact that you can still benefit from that, optimal releasing is made when you release your feelings.
As feelings are located in the body, you can’t feel anything by focusing in your head. One of the things you can do if you are having problem with it, is to put your hand over your heart and focus on it as you do the releasing.
If you still can’t feel anything, there is still hope. Stop trying to release for some period of time and focus on doing this exercise:
1. Locate the general area where you feel the feeling. Is it in your throat, chest, solar plexus or belly?
2. Find the area where it is most intense. For example, if the feeling is in your chest, is it right in the center of your chest or more over to one side?
3. Notice its quality. Is it burning, diffuse, irritating, warm, cold? For the start, try to find at least one word to describe it.
4. See if it radiates anywhere. Feelings usually are not confined to just one area of the body, they radiate much like an amoeba putting out pseudopods.
5. Notice its quality. Often feelings are most intense in the center and get more diffused as you move away from the center. Try to sense it.
6. Find its edges. This is really key. In order to release your feelings, you have to be able to isolate them from their surroundings.
7. Once you find the “shape” of the feeling, notice its quality. Is it sharp and defined, or more diffuse and fuzzy?
Avoid going back to your mind while doing this process. If you start noticing yourself answering the questions with “It’s green and it looks like a giant spider with hairy legs” you have gone to far away from your body sensations.
I can’t release!
Releasing does not come from the mind’s responses to the questions; it comes from the feelings themselves.
1. Feel the feeling
2. Once you have a clear sense of the feeling, ask the 1st question of the Basic Releasing questions and WAIT
3. If you feel some SHIFT in the feeling, that’s a YES. Ask yourself “Could I welcome some more?” and repeat the process.
4. If the feeling doesn’t shift, that’s a NO. When you say a clear NO to your mind (that’s the time to refer back to it), often a release spontaneously occurs.
You can release with just the 1st question or all 3 (Could you? Would you? When?), use whatever works best for you. The important thing is to pay attention to the shifts that happen when you ask the questions.
I released on a topic, but it keeps coming up!
Excellent. As you release, more feelings come up for you to let go of, they were suppressed to your subconscious and now you can do something about them. What might also happen is that the sensations grow even stronger as you release, or that they come back after you thought you had released all of the charge.
Remember that what you have let go is gone, these feelings that are arising were unconscious up until now… release them and you become freer.
Can You Give Me Some Tips?
The best tip that can be given is to keep releasing continuously, the more time you spend releasing the greater will be your progress.
Top 7 Tips for Your Releasing Success
- Make releasing constant.
- Find a release partner.
- Release the FEELINGS, not the thoughts.
- Set goals then release on them, so at least you can follow your releasing progress.
- Review the basics constantly.
- Release to release. Releasing to get something will leave you stuck in the desire and – satisfaction loop. So, just release and see what happens.
Letting go of your problems
No matter what the problem is, a relationship/health/money issue or habit, you can release on it. However, many still don’t believe that their problem can be solved by doing it because somehow “my problem is special”. Here is how:
- Refer to the 6 steps. (this is a topic taken up in advanced workshops)
- Let go of the underlying cravings of approval/control or security.
- Use processes like Advantages/Disadvantages, Attachments/Aversions, Likes/Dislikes.
- Let go of the resistance to the problem
- Let go of trying to figure it out / make the problem real.
- Release for as much time as it takes. You will agree with me that a 15 year problem may not be solved in one sitting.
Understanding the Cravings:
Craving equals Lack.
Craving approval is a lack of love/acceptance feeling
Craving control is an out of control and lacking of control feeling
Craving to be safe is a lack of safety feeling
You can’t stand up and sit down at the same time
You can’t crave and have at the same time
They are two opposing energies
So allow your cravings to be here in this moment and let them be. Welcome them and gently, as best as you can, let them go. Remember, persistence pays, and pays really well.